Weightloss and Self-Confidence

We’ve all heard it before “you’re cute for a big girl” or “you have such a pretty face”. If you haven’t then count yourself as lucky. Seriously I hate those phrases and the fact that people allow them to come out of their mouths kind of pisses me off. I even had a guy tell me I was “fluffy” and that he likes “fluffy chicks” (really?). I guess you can say those phrases are better than being called “disgusting” or “fat pig” which thankfully I have never been called but I know some of you have. My go to retort is always “I can always lose weight but you can never change your ugly personality”. That usual shuts them up which is a good thing because I try not to be a violent person.

This isn’t about snappy retorts though this is about what phrases like the ones I have listed above and others can do to your self-confidence. I have always prided myself on being a pretty confident person. My mother taught me to love myself despite what people may have to say or think about you. As long as I am happy with myself  who cares what the world thinks.

Too many times when I read weight loss articles or blogs it seems like the person is waiting for the weight to come off in order to feel happy with themselves. They are waiting for the weight to come off in order to live the life they think they cannot live while they are heavy. Actually I take that back because it’s not just us big girls/big guys who do this, I know plenty of women (and men)who are not heavy who will say “oh jeez I can’t do (insert activity) until I lose 10 lbs”.  Especially with summer coming up everyone is in a mad dash to drop the pounds in order to feel comfortable in shorts or a bathing suit.

I am here to thell you this:

Plain and simple pounds lost does not equal happiness. You have to love yourself in the here and now. You have to love your rolls, cellulite and belly now. You have to wake up in the morning and tell yourself that you are beautiful, worth it and that no matter what happens in life the only thing that matters is that you love yourself.  I know this is hard especially for us, the ones with huge amounts of weight to lose. How can you love what makes you so miserable? Easy as soon as you accept that your weight does not define you as a person and can begin the journey to change.

While embarking on this change realize that you do not need to wait until you are at your “goal weight” to do the things you want to do. If you want to to start running…run. If you want to start taking dance lessons…dance. If you want to swim..throw on that bathing suit and swim.  The point is live the way you want to live regardless of  your weight. Things can only get better, like the proverb says “Time waits for no man”.

This takes practice. It’s not something that will happen overnight but you can change your thinking and boost your self confidence over time. Try this:

• ~ Only think positive thoughts.

As soon as you feel a negative thought coming…nip it in the bud. Or spin it and make it a positive.

• ~ Use positive reinforcement.

Tell yourself you look cute (or handsome)!

Congratulate yourself on a job well done

• ~ Try a new activity.

This is self-explanatory. Something you have always wanted to do..DO IT!

• ~ Stop worrying about what other people think.

You love you and that is all that matters.

• ~ Talk to yourself.

Seriously wake up, look in the mirror and say “I love you” and then give yourself a big cheesy smile. It will make you feel better.

Remember

“The most terrifying thing is to accept oneself completely” ~ Carl Gustav

~Randi

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